Adele Remembers the Moment She Realized Her Marriage to Simon Konecki Was Over
Adele opens up about the moment she knew she was “unhappy” in an intimate conversation with Oprah Winfrey, two years after filing for divorce from Simon Konecki.
Adele is reliving a watershed moment in her personal life as she prepares to release her long-awaited post-breakup album, 30.
During the CBS special Adele One Night Only on November 14, the award-winning singer sat down with Oprah Winfrey and said that she was “unhappy” in her marriage to longtime lover Simon Konecki.
Adele told Oprah that she was determined to make her eight-year relationship work “I’ve been obsessed with the nuclear family my whole life because I never came from one. In all these movies and all these books, when you grow up reading them, that’s what it should be. I just, from a very young age, promised myself that when I had kids, that we’d stay together. We would be that united family. And I tried for a really, really long time.”
Adele and Simon began dating in 2011, and their son, Angelo, was born in October 2012. Six years later, in 2018, the two married and announced their divorce the following year.
“I was just so disappointed for my son,” said the 15-time Grammy winner. “I was so disappointed for myself, and I thought I was gonna be the one that stopped doing those bloody patterns all the time.”
Adele reflected on the moment she realised their marriage would not continue. It happened during a casual talk with friends. “We were all answering these questions in this very bougie magazine, and it was something like, ‘What’s something that no one would ever know about you?’ And I just said it in front of three of my friends, I was like, ‘I’m really not happy,'” she recalled. “‘I’m not living, I’m just plodding along.”
“And I remember a lyric that I wrote that I put on a song on 25, which is, ‘I want to live and not just survive,'” she added. “I definitely felt like that. And it was when I admitted to my own friends who thought I was really happy that actually I’m really unhappy, and they were all aghast. I felt like it was sort of from there that I was like, ‘What am I doing it for?”
Despite the fact that the two concluded their divorce settlement about eight months ago, Adele still praises her ex for being a stabilising factor in her life at an ever-changing moment in her career.
“He came at such a moment, where the stability that he and Angelo have given me, no one else would have ever been able to give me,” she explained. “Especially at that time in my life. I could’ve easily gone down some dodgy paths, [or been] sort of self-destructive from being so overwhelmed by all of it. And he came in and he was stable, the most stable person I’ve ever had in my life up until that point.”
As Adele stated it, even though the pair decided to part ways, Simon is still someone she can rely on completely. “Even now I trust him with my life,” she said, adding, “I feel like him and Angelo were angels sent to me.”